There was another amazing experience soon after this one that I have been processing for a long time. A co-worker that I do not particularly get along with came into my office and started talking about how bad she messed up. She was really beating herself up for a work error. I calmed her down and had her explain the situation to me. She explained her actions and I verified her story from the recordings. I told her I would not have done anything different and she did not make a mistake. She did the best she could with the information she was given.
She continued to talk about how she was a liability and how she was going to get in trouble from the higher ups. She was almost in a frenzy. Normally I would have just let her deal in her own pain. She has tried to get me fired as recently as a month ago. She has called me names and spread rumors both to my face and behind my back with no reprimand. She has been a great source of stress and frustration constantly for the last two years of my life. Yet as she started tearing up, I asked her if she wanted a hug. She said yes and I jumped up and wrapped my arms around her.
She stiffened up immediately but I just held her as she cried. I told her that she did the best she could and that I would go to bat for her. After she pulled out of the embrace, I told her that no one is perfect. We all just do the best we can and LEARN from what didnt work. There are no mistakes! Only opportunities to learn! This gets to be a lesson to her when she choose to accept it.
She was hesitant, and I dont blame her with our recent history. I can feel her self-doubt and pain. I am happy with myself for making the first step towards reconciliation. She invited me outside with her and we babbled about our boobs and men. It may not seem like much, but maybe, just maybe, it was the world. Either way, it was perfect.
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