July 5, 2010

Bedtime vs Family time

Last night, true to American fashion, I was drinking beer and playing "Redneck Life" with my sisters, my new brother, Beauty and her daddy. Perfect 4th of July!

It was getting late and Beauty was getting tired and a bit cranky. I put her on my shoulder, her favorite position when not eating, and she was calming down and starting to drift. Suddenly she started talking and squealing and looking down the dark hall behind me. When her daddy stood in front of her, she moved to look around him. She was having an intimate conversation with someone we couldn't see..

I tuned into my heart to feel who it was and I felt a familiar spirit, the same one I felt at Pappy's funeral. Immediately I felt he had come for her baby blessing that morning and waited and waited in the shadows until everything calmed down and they could talk. At dusk right before bed. It was PERFECT.

E seemed to disagree, and I guess he would know better than me, Pappy is his father after all. So maybe it was another one of her angels. Whoever it was, he said, its time to let her get her Beauty-sleep.

Which poses a question to me. When is it time to call it quits on playtime and when is it ok to put off bedtime? I love hearing my baby girl squeal and talk, especially with her parents or grandparents, but when is it time to intercede and call it bedtime?

And this goes for Booboo as well-when is it ok to let him stay up late, and how late? He needs time with family, dead or alive.. At what point does the late night family time start to damage him, if ever? I used to stay up late all the time and look at me! I'm fine!

..er, ok maybe don't use me for an example.

I'm tempted to let the play go on for hours because I know, I will miss it when its gone. How many chances is she going to have for a powerful conversation with her angels? And she may be over this adorable squealing thing tomorrow morning. SAD THOUGHT!

I guess that's why her daddy is my perfect partner in raising her! Somewhere between us I'm sure we will find a balance that is best for her.

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